Personally, there are a few self loathing and self denigrating things that I find less than helpful in some recovery circles.
That is one, as is, your best thinking got you here, and take the cotton out of your ears and put it in your mouth.
My alcoholism wasnt caused by my ego, an inability to listen, or some innate character flaw.
I also do not think being spoken to like a child or condescended to helps my recovery.
The fact is, I decided to stop drinking.
I quit.
And I continue to do the "next right thing".
No magic power has done that. I have.
I am all about whatever works for people, but sometimes I believe that taking people in a weak vulnerable state and seeking to perpetuate that is counterproductive.
I do, in all sincerity, take what works for me, and leave the rest.