I have an elderly Mom who still enables my 50yo AB. For many years, her decisions with respect to my brother caused problems in our relationship. It took a great counselor and AlAnon to help me learn to stay out of it all. I realized what Lexie just said...it's her life and she has to make the call. So I don't give opinions on what she does, I don't get involved in what happens between her and my brother. It breaks my heart at times, but I am healthier staying out of it. And my relationship with my Mom is better too. She also tries to guilt me about my brother, but I see it for what it is and don't let it bother me. As you said MaxieJ....Live and let live!!!