I agree about "scott free." by not saying anything the alcoholic in my life doesnt' care or forgets what he does.
I am in a spot where I'm not sure how to handle. By not setting any boundaries, he never has to own up to what he is doing, and it hurts my kids.
I think by just pretending there isn't an elephant in my living room, I am also enabling. He has so many years of pretending in place, my ignoring for four years has not helped at all.
I guess I'm at the point I just have to realize he is just going to ignore the problem, I'm trying to get the guts to do tough love.