Wow. I hear you man. Congratulations on 20 months!
I lost my fiance because of my drinking. Before that happened, I had pretty much made up my mind that if we ever split up, I would be done with the whole women thing.
I'm 7.5 months sober myself. I still haven't made up my mind if I even want to try and date again. I'm only 31, but it is such a hassle. At the same time, I find myself at times wishing I had someone. Who knows.
No reason to rush things, man. Just take your time and put yourself into new situations where you can meet girls. If you are trying to find them in A.A., I would rethink that.