Hay GT, I think what you just did is an example of what the OP was talking about. If they do not succeed you label their resolve as ‘wishy-washy’. Their lack of success is blamed on them, and ‘rational’ recovery can remain pure, pristine and infallible. Here is the reasoning.
Person A: "Nobody can have a true big plan and drink."
Person B: "I had a true big plan and I drank."
Person A: "Then you did not have a true big plan, it must have been a wishy-washy plan."
It’s reasoning that would make a ‘true Scotsman’ proud (see my earlier post).
Beyond the fact that the reasoning is fallacious, it is also disrespectful. It places the fault with the individuals resolve ( by labeling it as wishy-washy), regardless of them telling you the contrary. People are saying this is not helpful.