Jmartin...it is amazing how similiar our lives our. Instead of treatment my wife leaves for a week a month to pursue her art career. Durning that time I also feel like new life has breathed into me. She is gone right now and it has been calm, peaceful, no drama, no stress, no walking around on eggshells....almost normal. When she is sober we get along great. But it is like a nightly switch that gets flipped and out comes someone I dont even recognise any longer, which makes it maddening becuase I love being with her when she is sober. She too stresses out over things that most wouldnt give a second thought. She battles with her mother, who has some of the same behavorial characteristics, but not the alcohol. I just wanted to lift you up and have you realize that you are not alone brother. I am coming to the end. Been married 29 years. I have been very quietly planning some sort of exit strategy. I have realized recently that it is not "if" anymore but now when.
grizz