My bf is a former crack addict and meth user. He hasn't used any "hard" drugs for about two years now. We have been dating for a year and 5 months.
then you said,
Ever since I met him he was a very heavy pot user.
Hard or soft, dry or wet, hot or cold, all drugs end lives.
He is not living, he is a leeching parasite, using the women who love him to get what he wants.
Snoprincess,
Please educate yourself about being codependent.
You are so young and you can stop this bad habit of "helping" grown men.
I am asking you to please put him back where you found him,
and move on by yourself for awhile.
Ask yourself why you would even want to be around someone who treats his mother badly?
(wow, i just had a big AHA! I have a son living with me. He cannot use or abuse anything here,
but he has not done anything productive for a long time. Sigh.)
Maybe you could try some AlAnon meetings, and you will meet others who understand
you and then you can begin to live your own life.
Not support a leeching, smoking, non-working, uneducated and actually mean person.
You have done what any caring person would do.
He has not grabbed the life savers you have thrown him.
He is not interested in changing, so the only thing you can do is change yourself.
I am so happy you found this forum.
So much information for you and lots of caring people.
Beth