Recovering very slowly...
This is my first post in this forum. I am pretty new. I feel like I need so many answers, because I am feeling traumatized by what I have been living in. He has been out of the house for almost 8 months, but life has been hell for several years. I am only now really starting to feel the fear and pain that was underneath the panic and anger that was there all that time...I am realizing he has been betraying me in many ways for quite some time. He has turned into the greatest and biggest con.
I am wondering if what I am feeling is normal for a spouse of addiction, or if my situation goes beyond that. My husband is an ACOA, an addict, and has gone from being pretty passive to being pretty darn aggressive and blaming. He has told people a lot of lies about me. He yells at me the few times I am willing to talk to him. Our 12 year-old is refusing to see him because mostly he just blames and criticizes me.
I am reading, I am managing life (he has abandoned all responsibility here), I have an attorney, I talk to a counselor, but I am wondering how long it will be before I really start to feel good again.