Please visit
The LifeRing Home Page | Sobriety, Secularity, Self-Help
If I hadn't found these people I have trouble believing I would be 42 days sober and counting. I identify completely with how you feel in AA meetings. They make my skin crawl, and that can't be good for my long-term sobriety.
I go to Lifering meetings and I feel - calm. Like AVRT, RR, SOS, and some of the other secular alternatives, it has no steps, no sponsors, you don't need to introduce yourself as "I'm so-and-so, and I'm an addict," and you don't even need to subscribe to the "disease model" to do Lifering, just to be committed to sobriety and to make it a priority in your life.
Also note they have chat meetings throughout the week on the LR page, I enjoy those a lot.