Sistina, I hear money getting in your way but you sound close to willing to leave otherwise. Do you have a friend who could let you stay on a couch or spare room short term while you get on your feet?
I know the economy is BAD. But if you're free from what sounds like a very suffocating situation, and working on your own healing, it may be easier to take a step at a time towards your own job, place, etc
More than anything, keep coming back, post here, go to al-Anon, and take small steps to care for yourself through all this.