BlueSkies, that made me laugh out loud!! I think you're right and I intend to follow through! The catch is I need to figure out HOW to handle it. It's funny that my instincts have been more soothing and less solving, and I have to figure out my approach to change that for real.
I found a book online called Codependency in the Workplaxe !!!! but it's 87 freaking dollars. Argh.