Originally Posted by
LexieCat 
They aren't even capable of SEEING it, much less giving a damn.
You talked about not "getting" why he isn't getting treatment. It's because he doesn't think he needs it. He is still thinking he can wrestle this problem (and I think he does realize he has a problem--he just doesn't understand the scope and severity of it) into submission on his own steam. He can "manage" it, and he probably thinks he is doing a good job of it, and that you don't appreciate it. It is part of the whole alcoholic dilemma--the disease itself tells you that you don't have it. Astounding as it sounds, it is absolutely true.
Yes, yes, yes. The other night he told me he doesn't need help to stop, he can do it on his own. Furthermore, it's "not fair" that he can't even have a beer ever again. Even though I pointed out that he would never be satisfied with just one beer (by the way, to him, one beer is a 40 oz of malt...) and that it would just escalate right back into the old routine. He would not, could not acknowledge that.
He knows he has a problem. But he knows not the depth.