[QUOTE=LaurenR;4060496]
I know I should stop torturing myself with why because I'll probably never know. It just hurts knowing that I would never do anything like this to him. I'm trying to approach all of this differently and start focusing on me and my happiness, not letting him and his alcoholism bring me down. I'm just not very good at it yet.
Of course, you wouldn't do something like this to your husband...
And that's because you're in a relationship with him and not the bottle...
Unfortunately, as long as he is drinking, his relationship is with the bottle, as sad as that is....
As long as he's addicted, he's not capable of having a healthy relationship...
Believe me, I KNOW how hard it is not to take his "less than enthusiastic" attitude about your 8 year anniversary, or your birthday holidays etc., personally, but try to keep in mind, that this is how he would behave regardless of whoever he's in relationship with...
I truly feel for you....
And, may I respectfully say, that an 8 year union is still so fresh for him to already be taking you for granted...
That is unacceptable....
Let him stay on the couch, if that works for him....
In the meantime, surround yourself with people who DO value and appreciate you!
All the best,
Linda
Last edited by Diva76; 07-10-2013 at 08:47 PM.
Reason: I left out a word..doh!