Please, just share with us what you feel comfortable with. Also, please note, I am not a therapist. I picked up on that so fast, because I am going through this with a friend. I just listen to him, I don't try to theraparize him. (Don't think theraparize is even a word). What you were saying just sounded familiar to me. He wants to work on his whole self, not just the stop drinking part of it. He is almost 7 months sober. If you feel comfortable talking to me, a pm is ok. Just know I am not a therapist, I am a good listener, and I have a lot of empathy.
But also, keep posting here as much as you feel comfortable with. There are many people here with a lot of wisdom, a lot more then me.
BTW, I was a previous city girl, now live in the country.