Originally Posted by
LaurenR 
I've been reading a lot about Al-Anon, but I'm not sure the meetings are for me.The higher power stuff has just never clicked for me. I am finding alot of useful ideas and insights though.
What are your thought on Al-Anon?
By the way, I'm a Pats fan too!!!
Hey Lauren,
I'm sad to hear how your anniversary went.
My exA ruined every event too. Even when he wasn't drunk, like if we were at a music fest or something. The "Never being comfortable in your own skin." I guess.
But that is how it goes.
I highly recommend AlAnon. You don't have to buy in to the God stuff. I practice Buddhism (Nichiren school) and I let Higher Power mean, the Law, the Universe, Cause and Effect, Good Orderly Direction.....
Honestly, you are cutting yourself off from a wonderful source of help and nurturing and growth for yourself, by dismissing them based on old resentments. (Seriously, are you getting any nurturing from your AH? Doesn't sound like it. You probably need some by now.)