Thank you all for the welcome and replies! I know logically that it was the right step, unfortunately addicts love playing the guilt-trip game, and having been exposed to that repeatedly, it's begun to be hard-wired into my being. :/ Working hard on realizing that I am not responsible for anyone's destiny but my own, and that people get where they are by the choices and decisions THEY make. Now if only my heart can catch up with my brain.. :p