Hi BarbPete. Welcome to SR. Glad you're here!
Hey, you might want to do an intro post. You'll probably get more replies that way....
Meanwhile, I don't think you need to do anything you don't want to do because "you might screw up his recovery"
Doesn't he need to work on himself in recovery to learn to take life on life's terms? In other words, he needs to learn to live his life, work HIS program and not demand everyone cater to him?
Better he should discuss this concern of his with his sponsor!
I don't think you need to wave it in his face, but I totally don't think you should stop doing fun, healthy things with your friends because *he* claims he can't handle it.