How much can alcoholics blame their behaviour on being an alcoholic?
I think that's a million dollar question that may never be answered
I used to try and rationalise why an alcoholic said/did certain things, but it drove me insane. And then one day, it dawned on me: alcoholism affects a person's brain, their emotions, their actions and every fibre of their being. It's a drug that pervades every aspect of their lives.
In light of that, I realised that there's simply no way I can understand what they say and do. It's more confusing, more indescribable and more frustrating than what it's worth. And I have enough going on in my own life and in this world without trying to understand what caused each action, each word, each response.
Life is too short and too precious to waste precious time, effort and energy on such an indescribable concept. And while that doesn't give me answers, it gives me knowledge and comfort in the fact that the answers lie deep in the alcoholic's brain that isn't working normally, so why try and understand it in the first place?