"Why do they force people out of their lives, yet pin the blame for it on that person?"
My theory, because it protects the addiction. We start to get to close to it. We figure it out. They don't like being confronted, They want to stay in denial, having us around eventually forces them to face the truth. If a person is not interested in recovery, then it seems the smartest way out without the guilty conscience. Makes a lot of logical sense when you step outside of the emotion.
But knowing this, for me, well, doesn't really make it any easier. It all hurts just the same. Addiction or no addiction. Being rejected sucks!!
Finding a way to face the truth and move past it on to something better in life. That is where our focus needs to be and seems to be the biggest challenge. I am ever hopeful!