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Old 07-08-2013, 01:36 PM
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DreamsofSerenity
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Zen,

I think you are wise to hold off dating for a while.

When I was talking about intense, I meant more the nature of the relationship as intense than his personality type. In fact, my ex was pretty laid back, at least on the outside.

I think the fighting makes things intense because there is so much upset followed by the ecstasy of the make-ups. It's a like a roller coaster ride of emotions. Plus, alcoholics are spontaneous and unpredictable. They call in the middle of the night, want to have sex in public, show up places unexpectedly etc.. All these things make the relationship intense. Not healthy but intense.

Zen, I feel like you got messed up with an alcoholic by chance, and are suffering because well, it sucks to be with an alcoholic. But you don't really strike me as a serious codie.You seem to have the right ideas about everything, and just need some time to meet the right woman. I feel like a healthy relationship is in your future. Do you agree?
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