Originally Posted by
ZenMe Is it possible to meet someone who isn't clinically depressed, an alcoholic, an addict, a narcissist, etc AND feel that instant intensity?
and if not, how do you get past not feeling it to get to the real goods =)?
Arg, what I meant is, what is it about their conditions that makes them appealing to you?
Yes, its absolutely possible because when you're in that much pain/depression, it takes excessive dramatic attention to GET your attention. And the relief of getting what looks like love ("Oh youre the most amazing woman ive ever met!!!! ) instantly relieves the inertia of depression.
Also they're familiar--the Psychopath's eyes often looked dead and reptilian, and the A's when he was drunk did too--like my mother's fairly often. The effusive, unrealistic praise, also familiar. I thought it was sincere. Ate it up. The lack of real connection...also familiar...then crumbs. I'm used to that, I'll take anything.
Does that help at all? I can't really think and type this as clear/concise as I'd like---really awkward on the mobile.