gubers, I think you need to work on keeping your program separate from his. You should have an Al-Anon sponsor to confide in. Your husband has enough on his plate that it isn't appropriate for you to make him take on the role of confidant right now. And vice versa--you have enough of your own to deal with, without taking on the role of cheerleader.
You can be supportive without getting enmeshed with each other's recovery. Later, when you are both stable and solid in your respective recoveries, there will be the opportunity to become close again. Right now, though, I'm afraid that too much "togetherness" on the road to recovery will mess you both up.
Glad you're here--welcome!