I know I can't fix anything for him or make the decisions for him. I just want to find that balance of taking care of myself and being his spouse and partner.
I am stepping back as much as I can. Info to work he goes to a trusted friend and in the evenings if he doesn't want to be around me I let him go.
The biggest thing I need to figure out is how to let him go when I'm upset at something, whether its him and his drinking of just life in general.
We've both lost a lot of people we thought were friends and turn to each other a lot which sometimes causes out fights.
I am going to al-anon and he was going to AA and NA along with an outpatient treatment program.
He is a lot further along In understanding the steps because of his past experience working them evening he and I are in similar places for working them.