You are absolutely right springs. Alcoholism is a horrible disease! This horrendous disease is responsible for the suffering of so many on this board. Our members have had lives and childhoods that were completely and utterly destroyed by the alcoholic in their family! They are working so hard to pick up the pieces and mend their shattered lives. Many doing this alone and shouldering the burden of responsibility for the children the alcoholic has damaged and then Left behind. For the op to even name her so-called abf Mr. Hero is in itself the epiphany of denial and a blatant slap in the face to those who have and are still suffering and in pain. That is why I believe this op is purposely making a mockery of these caring, knowledgeable, intelligent and well intentioned posters whose only aim is to rescue the op from the progressive devastation of alcoholism.