kla, did you read the stickies at the top of the page? What your partner has is a disease that will get progressively worse until HE decides to seek recovery. It has nothing to do with you. It sounds like everything you're doing to make it work should give any relationship a chance at working . . . but not with an alcoholic. He has a partner already and it isn't you, it's alcohol. Be kind to yourself, find an Alnon near you, read as much as you can here.