Sandi -
I'm so sorry that you are going through this. Living with an alcoholic - drunk or sober - can be difficult. Just a thought, but why are you going to your mother's for a few weeks to give him time to think? You and your child are leaving your home. If he needs time and space to think, isn't there some place that he can go to do that? If that is what you want to do, then it is the right thing. Mom's can always make us feel better! If that is his wish though, you might want to think about it.
As spouses of A's we get so used to walking on eggshells around them and doing whatever we can to make life easier, to run smoother that it becomes a way of life. If we don't make them face the consequences of their actions they seldom learn to take the responsibility for those actions.
I would strongly recommend that you go to Alanon meetings. There you will learn that nothing we do will fix them. We can only work on making changes in ourselves. You need to learn to take care of yourself. Recovering alcoholics tend to be very selfish in their recovery. They are taught to focus on what they need to remain sober. Obviously, it is a tough time for everyone. He probably feels that you just don't understand what he is going through - and of course, you don't. He doesn't understand what you are going through either. They are often filled with guilt over the pain they have caused their families and alot of them just don't want to deal with that when they are newly recovering.
Spend some time here with us. We are a very supportive group of people and you can learn alot from reading other posts and sharing yourself as well. You need to learn to take care of yourself. Your husband will have to work through his own issues. One day at a time is a good thought to hang on to.
Sandi, glad you found us. It helps lighten the load when you know that others know how you feel and what you are going through.
Big hugs, Jo