Thanks TG... I know that a lot of my girls getting at each other is typical sibling rivalry stuff... But it's equally clear to me that a lot of the ways they interact and express hurt/sadness/anger is a direct result of the patterns they have grown up seeing. I have them in therapy and their therapist is great and helping them as am I, use appropriate ways to express their feelings... They tend to revert back to old ways after interactions with their father such as his nonsense directed at me on Sunday... Finally this morning, several days and a lot of patience later, they are back to being okay with one another and me and acting in ways that are healthy....