Dear Tuffgirl---it was HAMMER who used the phrase: "Don't take your diagnosis form an alcoholic". I loved it so much that I "stole" it for myself and plan to use it whenever it is suitable.
Dear wtbh----Does sound like he is NPD. Of course it hurts to see your children sad--OF COURSE. Just don't give him any more credibility by buying into the sh** that he spews. Don't give him any more real estate in your head.
dandylion