we either see that as a chore and too much work, OR we find that empowering and surge ahead.
Yes, I was not afraid of it being too much work, I was afraid my excuses would disappear with him.
My excuses for not living a full life that I controlled, just one I survived and went from one chaotic event to the next (skating on the edge of loosing my job) blaming all the problems on my ex husband.
Pretty convenient for me.
I had to be sober to realize how energizing it is to OWN my own life.
No excuses, no lies. My responsibilities ONLY. Not his, just mine.
I said earlier about how easy it is, (to change and see the light of a new day)
It is simple but not easy.
That is what is said about the program.
Liz, any "compassion" you see from him is an NPD show for your benefit to keep you hooked in. Until you know this, really get this, the "beatings will continue until moral improves."
an old joke for the workplace.
I did learn that I have choices, and these were small steps of stepping away and choosing a healthier way.
Liz, please do not diminish any progress you make. Progress is progress, measuring is for cooking, not for life programs. There will be a difference in you, that is when you know.
Keep trudging along.
I wish I could go to a conference.
I am going to see how to make that happen.
Beth