I told him I went to a lawyer to learn the risks to ME... He doesn't care about the risk.
Can I ask why you told him?
He is a loving man...
Who puts you and your son at risk daily, who lies to you, is emotionally abusive, and doesn't care about your health or well-being.
Liz, your posts make me feel a little crazy. As soon as you get some feedback, you pull away and tell us how amazing your NPDAH is and how he just needs your compassion and you're the one who [insert negative thing here]. I said it above and I'll say it again: An official NPD diagnosis means that no matter how beautiful, kind, faithful, giving, committed or sexually available you are, he will not change.
His well-being is at your expense. That is by definition a toxic, abusive relationship, and I feel irresponsible *****-footing around it.
You are choosing to stay because you're too scared to do something else. Your frustration and exhaustion is also your choice.