You GO Go Go... be with your family. One year, when all my family could have been together and my exH (he was the dry drunk) didn't want to go. And I stayed behind and spent that Christmas with him.... sadly I regret that. I ended up making the quickest meal there was, and sketched and watercolored small birds. Another Christmas didn't ever come that our whole family was together... He went to my mother's for Christmas before that, but he didn't enjoy it, because he wasn't the center of attention... as mentioned how self centered....