Originally Posted by
Manmust 
Still, not good enough. She finds excuses why I'm not doing the right thing, or accuses me of belittling, judging or being passive aggressive. None of which I do.
As you probably know, that is typical projection.
She put her deposit it down and signed the lease on a new place to move for July 1 today. I just found out her intentions yesterday, and after not helping but 100-200 on total bills and buying groceries 1/2 time, she's managed to come up with a deposit and pay rent monthly. I feel used.
That is a normal and likely correct measure of your emotion(s). Good job on that.
Feel used.
Because you have been dealing with . . . a User. Alcoholics, Addicts, etc., are users. It is what they do. They USE their drug of choice and they USE people.
I feel sad and angry. Although, I know this is for the best. Just thought I'd update.
ALL things work together for good . . . .
Consider that you would have never likely tossed her out on your accord.
Blessings, such as they are.