Originally Posted by
lovejava 
I had to also learn to stop second-guessing myself as to whether I could have done something if I had listened more closely, if I hadn't been estranged from my mother until just before her death, etc, etc, etc. It's a slow process to heal and I'm still working on it.
Oh wow, I relate sooooo much! We must have been through very similar circumstance! It's hard. I was also estranged from my mom, by choice, eight months prior. I live with guilt.