Well, my therapist told me last night that I project 'good things' onto my XA. Specifically, he said, "You know that all the 'good' qualities you speak of when you talk about C are things that YOU are projecting ONTO him, right? That they aren't really qualities that he has proven he possesses?" And although it
sounds like a positive at first, because we're talking about 'good' qualities, it's still actually negative, because it's me giving him credit for being a better person than he actually is, which is detrimental to ME and the way I think about him. Not sure if I'm making sense, but just thought I'd share a different spin on it.
