Dear WantTobehealthy, sounds just like the crap my children's father used to pull---SO, I completely understand the absolutely homicidal fantasies!!! It is not sick----On the contrary, it is very healthy to get the anger out of your body--in s constructive way. I can remember being so angry that I could hardly think straight--felt like exploding fro the frustration--So, I went to the edge of the woods and screamed every vile thing--every vile name; every mean thing I wanted to say to him. I did it until it hurt my voice--tears and snot streaming down. It calmed me down. I still hated him, but I was able to be calm and rational.
I suggest not responding to him in any kind of emotional way--and, if it were me--I wouldn't let him off the hook. I would expect him to pick up the girls; like it or not. As a m other, I am sure that you give up a lot of opportunities for entertainment for the sake of your girls!!!!
dandylion