Thank you
All of your advice(harsh or sweet) have made it more real. I not in denial about the last two yrs he's lived with me. His problems are a result of his selfishness or procrastination. I broke up with him twice before he moved in. He always wanted me back...surprise right? His ex wife is a decent woman and his daughter doesn't deserve this. I've told him not to ignore her like this. Unreal. His only child.
You are ALL right. He will survive and is resourceful, I am not stupid/savior/mother, and I should go to Alanon. I also forgot about past offenses and then remembered them months later. I've actually made that list one poster mentioned, and I got so mad I threw it away. THANK U SO MUCH . I hope I can help somebody on SR one day.