He told me I'd either get on board with his plan and things would be easy or else.
It's the 'or else' that concerns me--greatly. I don't know if you have seen this thread, but I'm bringing the link here for you to see:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...hat-abuse.html
I'm so glad you are contacting your local DV shelter. They will know best how to advise you. It's good to be prepared--to have a plan when leaving someone who is controlling and abusive. There is also some great information about making a plan here:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...out-abuse.html
Sending prayers and good thoughts. Stay safe!