Vent away, Gisele, vent away!
Ah, yes, the lying, the mood swings, the maniuplation and control to keep someone in that enabling spot for the active alcoholic, but add emotional, physical and sexual abuse to that--no one deserves to be on the receiving end of abuse--period.
Anger is a natural emotion and can help us change our lives if we use that energy toward something productive. It can also eat us up from the inside out if we aren't careful. Sometimes, I would be more angry at myself for putting up with poor treatment than I would be at the person who treated me that way.