Dear Crazed, that must have hurt like a hundred bee stings!! My heart goes out to you for that one.
I can practically gurantee that it falls on her mother's head, and is not a calculated action by the child!
Do not blame the child--who knows exactly what happened, anyway. The child would probably have to acquiess (sp?) to the parent's wishes, anyway.
Those things that you did with and for the daughter will always remain in her memory--they will be there decades from now. It is not lost. The good always remains in the heart.
I second the suggestion to send the daughter a nice card, or something symbolic.
Isn't it always that the kids get hurt in the middle between the adults?!!!
The messed up mind of the addicted hurts others in countless ways. Ther is no way around that fact.
dandylion