its good of you to care for the young lady. please make sure to send her a card or something? my last husband and i were together for 14 years total, that's 14 years of my daughter's life from 4-18. when he and i split, well, when i left, he never once tried to contact her directly...in the few times we spoke he was inquire but i was more than a little shocked that his defense mechanism of shutting ME out (understandable) including shutting HER out.