It's a tough thing when they are enraged like that and anything sets them off. I know my ADH will get that way sometimes in the evening. He doesn't direct it at me either but its annoying to see him get so upset at rediculous things. He will get agitated and make snide comments about TV, the house anything really and no matter what I or anyone else say or do it would be wrong so I just ignore him and don't feed into it. I remind myself its the alcohol talking.