Originally Posted by
Wishful133 
He also says he's not as "serious an alcoholic" as some so I shouldn't be concerned about it. Are there varying levels of alcoholics?
Im not trying to be bluesy or downer here but I dont like that he says that. Not one bit.
Its a little unsettling when an alcoholic or recovering alcoholic says hes. Not like other alcoholics or not as bad as others
Ithink that is called the yets.
Example I havent been homeless yet
I havent lost my job yet and im not dying of liver failure yet
So im not that bad.
Its all bad because it can be bad and because its a lifelong horrible lying trick you disease.
So hopefully eventually he comes to terms with the fact that his addiction is not on a pedestal or ivory tower because bad things like others have "yet" to happen.
I do agree with your therapist that you two should be communicating about his recovery. Its Healthy and a benefit.
Detachment though is letting go of the illusion of control and letting this be about what he is to do for him and to do the same for you when need be...detaching so your health is not jeopardized.