myfreedom, this honeymoon period (sweet, loving) can last a short time--a few days--to a few weeks. Gradually, tension starts to build in the relationship, again (walking on eggshells), until it reaches a breaking point and the dangerous behavior returns.
This is a general pattern; the time frames and order of the stages can vary in each specific relationship.
An alcoholic will remain manipulative, in general until they have made real and lasting changes by intensive work in a recovery program (like AA). Not just going to meetings--but, working all the steps with a sponsor. Takes time and is very intensive work. Just not drinking is not the same as recovery--because the thinking and attitudes have not changed.
dandylion