I second everything that Florence has said.
I especially relate to "Death by a thousand cuts". That is the best charcterization of NPD
that I have ever heard!!
My children's father is very narcissistic. I divorced him decades ago. I haven't seen or spoken to him in years and years--but I hear that he hasn't changed one iota over the years. I have never regretted the decision to divorce. I was young at the time--28yrs. and certainly had no idea what the clinical features of personality disorders looked like (LOL)--but I knew in my gut that there was no way I could ever be myself and and have my my own identity while living with him.
dandylion