Thank you, wicked! Yes, I am not ready yet- why I am unsure, but time and my HP will help, maybe I am still clinging to hope, maybe it's simply hard to let go of a life created over 25 years. I need to accept where I am at, and as you say Action will follow.
Thankful for Al Anon, it has helped me change my focus, and yes, I believe the mind games are his subconscious effort to derail me. My feeling is that he is unnerved by Al Anon, my programme and how I am changing. I spent the afternoon with my sponsor who brought me back to ground, and placed me back on track.
Thank you all for your replies- it helped so much.