Before the meeting begins I say a prayer to my Higher Power inviting his presence not only in the meeting but into my heart, mind, ears and mouth. In this way I can hear my Higher Power's guidance regardless of the personality being used as the conduit and I too, am the vessel; sometimes for delivery unto my own self.
The meetings I attend primarily focus on the solution and the experience, strength and hope found within. All of them specifically ask that the focus be kept on ourselves and not on the alcoholic. Whether other people can entirely abide by this is no reason to not let the paradigm begin with me.
Even a raving newcomer is a healthy perspective for where I have progressed from and can remind me of the simple solutions that worked then as well as today.