I can totally relate to your issue. In my case, I had a friend that recently got very drunk at a party where everybody is engaged in moderate to buzzed drinking (not drinking to get drunk, but to get buzzed). It seemed to me that the individual become very disruptive and boorish with you talked to.
It seems that getting really drunk gets on my nerves as a sober person in AA. If a person is buzzed, but capable of having a sober conversation, it usually doesn't bother me. However, when people get really drunk, I usually tend to want to go away from the event because the event is no longer fun.
Personally, I have no desire to drink when I around alcohol. Prior attending an event where alcohol is being served, it is best to attend a meeting prior to dealing with issue.