Sorry about your situation, but glad you're here. Your wife seems to be saying the usual A stuff...they will usually say whatever it takes to keep us hooked. I learned don't listen to what they say, watch what they do. She's still drinking, no job, no license, etc. None of that points to a healthy future.
I think a lot of us get trapped because we've been in the situation a long time. We seem to feel a commitment to the time already put into the relationship. But when only one partner is truly in the re'ship....what exactly are we protecting? Life is short.... each of us deserves a real partner and a happy life.
I hope you get to AlAnon. (((hugs)))