Originally Posted by
SoloJohn 
What I failed to mention is this is 33 year investment, not so easy, or quick to 'get over'.
It never is, 3 years or 33 years. It's a painful, gut-wrenching experience, especially when addictions are involved and we "used to know" the person we thought we were growing old with.
There is no easy way, but there are ways to successfully detach and live your own life well. Al-Anon is a great place to start learning those ways. Read here as much as you can. Find a good therapist for some tips on how to handle alcoholism/addictions.
Who knows? Maybe you will set a good example for her to make some changes. At the very least, you will feel better about yourself and your life.
Keep posting and keep coming back
~T