Midnightblue, you are clearly a person that has done some psychological heavy lifting, work! MUCH of what you advised are things that I've learned through therapy. Thank you so much for reminding me. I know how to be the observer, and allow it to float right on by. My anxiety and self doubt come into play occasionally, and it is harder to be objective. Thats where reconnecting with the present, not disassociating- is important. I lost the "ground" last night!! All part of the process. I have to practice it. And you can't do that drunk or hungover. You just can't! Thank you so much for bringing me back to to my ground. Seriously, sincerely- you just rocked my world.. In a good way. :-). THANK YOU